Please Find Attached: How Attachment Theory Explains Our Relationships

Following the publication of the successful Love Factually, Laura Mucha found that the subject she touched on in the book that caught everyone’s attention most was attachment theory. It is one of the most significant theories of human development in the last century, and one of the most researched areas of psychology but there isn’t much available to a normal person about what it is, how it impacts every aspect of your life and how it can be changed.

That’s where We Need to Talk About Relationships comes in. It explains what attachment theory is, examines how people’s attachment patterns impact different aspects of their lives, and investigates how to go about changing them for the better. The book will explore relationships with parents, friends, partners and children – as well as looking at the way people regulate their own emotions more generally (as this is heavily influenced by their attachment pattern). Laura will do this through ‘longitudinal research she will interview a diverse selection of six people over two years and work with experts (world leading attachment academics and psychotherapists) in order to share with the interviewees, and readers, the tools required to understand and ultimately change their attachment pattern. Each chapter will focus on a theme, zooming in on two or three of the interviewees to tell their stories. Laura will explore how their attachment pattern impacts that specific area of their lives, what academic research and practising therapists have to say about what could be changed, and how the interviewees go about trying to change.

This in-depth and engaging account of attachment theory will equip readers with the knowledge to consider their own attachment styles and make decisions about their relationships that will enrich their lives. It will answer all the questions readers have ever had about how their relationships work, such as ‘How do I prevent passing my insecure attachment pattern to my children?’, ‘I’m anxious and I’m married to someone avoidant can I make this work?’, ‘How do I go about changing my attachment pattern?’, using science and personal stories to explore one of the most difficult areas of our lives in an unpatronizing, non-judgemental, kind and compassionate way.